What do you have the right to expect?
Color Commentary for Monday, January 30, 2012
By E. R. Haas
"For, he that expects nothing shall not be disappointed, but he that expects much—if he lives and uses that in hand day by day—shall be full to running over."
~ Edgar Cayce
Great quote, isn't it? Even if it comes from a man who lived his life on the fringe of "conventional" wisdom, considered by many to be a fraud and charlatan!
Do you Expect little out of life... for fear of being disappointed?
Or do you raise the bar each day, setting a new higher standard for yourself—creating world-changing Expectations—and holding yourself fully accountable for achieving them?
Do you Expect the good things in life... or just whatever life hands you?
Do you have sky-high Expectations—coupled with the Power to exceed them—or do you just hope and pray to make it through the day?
Do you live your dreams... or are you trapped in a slow-moving nightmare?
It's all a matter of what you have given yourself the RIGHT to Expect.
The question I posed all last week was simple: Are you taking ACTION to move your dreams into your life? Are you living your MISSION?
If not, why not?
This week, we will focus on the power of crystal-clear EXPECTATIONS. The power of clear future Expectations is an AWESOME POWER— trumping fantasies, wishes, dreams, hopes and aspirations every time.
As we say in The Power of TQ and 10 Choices of Intentional Excellence, it is the ratio of your Expectations over your Power of Execution that drives everything that you will ever be, do and have in life. If you are struggling right now, I highly recommend you get your personal copy of this fabulous book, and read it twice. Do all the exercises, and you will experience one of the most eye-opening events of your life. You will see—up close and personal—WHY the 4-word TQ catch-phrase is the most important advice you will ever receive: Expect More ~ Execute Better.
Learn how to turn your dreams into clear Expectations, and they are 75% realized. Leave them in their natural dream-state, and you have a zero chance of seeing them made real.
This is an absolute FACT!
A big part of my job is turning hopes and dreams into reality. My team and I do it every day.
With millions of data points at ThinkTQ.com, I know for a FACT that most people (89%) fail to set crystal-clear Expectations for what they want to see happen.
They FAIL then, simply because they don't EXPECT to succeed.
What Do YOU Have The Right To Expect?
By turning a wish into a dream... a dream into a goal... a goal into a plan... THEN taking some action (however small) to move towards your dream, you EARN the right to EXPECT rather than just wish and wait.
_________________________________________
Rate Your Power to EXECUTE:
________________________
To realize your dreams, you must BELIEVE you can.
All this week, I want you to focus on TQ Factor 3B: "I am confident that I can succeed at whatever I do, as long as I simply take the right actions." It sets up the initial conditions under which a dream coalesces into an Expectation.
Understand the importance of this TQ Factor of your performance and you are well on your way to tremendous success. Fail to heed the advice contained here, and your goals will have a very difficult time even seeing the light of day.
Stop and listen to the audio track for this TQ Factor while you're reading the rest of this page, and while you're completing the exercises below.
This is just one track from our fabulous ACT NOW Personal Workshop. If you don't own the complete collection, maybe it's high time to get with the program!
Engage your brain on as many levels as possible and
you'll learn faster, and remember what you've read longer.
A Simple Prescription For Success...
Just do a few things RIGHT!
Success is the direct result of taking the Right actions, the Right way, at the Right time for the Right reasons.
Understand your age-old 4 R's and you can take on anything with confidence.
Just discover what the right actions are and do them.
Frequently!
With tremendous consistency and skill.
Remember, your success isn't limited by past mistakes—but by your willingness to take the right actions right now!
If you have no confidence in your ability, you won't even try.
But, if you're committed to do whatever it takes until you get it right—you will eagerly proceed with the confidence to succeed.
"Nature arms each man/woman with some faculty which enables him to do easily some feat impossible to any other."~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Factor 3B's CONTRIBUTION to your performance...
A high commitment to this Factor of your performance suggests you approach every situation with the EXPECTATION that you will ultimately find the right thing to do and then do it. Because you are confident you can achieve anything you want, an endless series of possibilities open up.
This is not simplistic, blind faith that things will always work out.
Instead, it's a belief gained from a history of trying new things and staying with them until you succeed. Even when you don't know if you'll succeed, you still take action in pursuit of what you want—because you are certain you will figure it out eventually.
Factor 3B's COST to your success...
A lack of commitment to this area of your performance suggests you are someone who tends to fear failure and avoids the pain of doing things wrong.
A lack of confidence, and a fear of failure, prevents you from proceeding—more times than you'd like.
You find it hard to take action when there's no guarantee of success. It's even worse when you've never done something before.
This lack of confidence holds you back from small things like initiating conversations with strangers—to large decisions like career changes.
And day-by-day, you simply give up on things you want—because you have no belief in your ability to achieve them.
Reality Check...
Without a clear VISION of the future that aligns with your VALUES, you will spend your life wishing for things that simply don't matter. If this is a problem area for you, listen to your Mission CD again and identify ONE ACTION that you can take NOW to move in the direction of your dreams.
See Also: Plans Test... Goals Test... Attitude Test...
TQ Integrating Questions...
How to incorporate TQ Factor 3B into your daily actions.
Understanding how this Factor drives your performance is key to improving it. Sometimes a small
shift in perspective gives you a huge shift in power.
Print this page, take out your pen and invest a few moments to answer the following questions.
Do it now.
Each one is designed to shift your perspective, change your point of view, and to invite specific action.
"Point of view is worth 20 IQ points."
~ E. R. Haas
Power Up Questions:
- To virtually guarantee your success in your current project, what's one more thing you could do?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- As you begin your next task, what images of success can you conjure up?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- What outcome did you predict when you began your present task?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- What one step can you take right now that will help achieve this week's goals?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- What do you want to accomplish by the end of today?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
Insight Questions:
- Have you developed a trail-blazer's attitude yet?
_______________________________________________
- How many reasons can you list for succeeding at your present goal?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- What evidence can you create for the success of your current objective?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- What new task or activity will you challenge this week?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- What have you been putting off doing because you thought you couldn't do it well?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
Perspective Questions:
- When others say you can't, do you agree with them? Or do you become more determined to succeed?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- Does your morning ritual include any positive affirmations?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
- The first time for anything is awkward for everyone. Why should that stop you from beginning?
_______________________________________________
- What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
The Bottom Line.
Are there things you want, but you hesitate to try because you fear failure more than you expect success? Stop this destructive thinking.
When you develop the confidence to passionately pursue anything and everything you want, you move towards the results you expect. Until then, your dreams are on hold, because you haven't EARNED THE RIGHT TO EXPECT THEM.
If you haven't already, right now is the perfect time to take a baseline assessment of your EXPECTATIONS and your POWER to achieve them. I urge you to take the full 100 question TQ Test to baseline where you are now... and what you will need to do differently to achieve your goals this year. -- E.R. Haas, CEO
Get our FREE 
Find out how the color of your performance affects the color of your parachute with 
Member Comments...
I then ask myself how I can raise the bar... elevate the standard... transforming my day fro ordinary to extraordinary.
Yes, I set VERY high Expectations for myself and those around me.
But I don't stop there. 10 times each day, on the hour, I ask myself this simple question:
Right now, am I getting the Results I EXPECT?
If not, I improve my performance. If I am, I raise the Expectation even higher!
This is how I engage in Thanks Living: Thankful for what I have -- but striving for even bigger, better opportunities to serve, achieve and live my best life at every point in my life.
Each day, I live the TQ motto:
Expect More ~ Execute Better!
"Eat your elephant one bite at a time."
I always thought that to be sage advice and repeat it to myself when feeling overwhelmed by something I'm trying to do.
Best of luck to you and everyone working toward their goals!
A while ago I read a story on the Internet (obviously made up) about two men - one was accomplished and rich, while the other was homeless. When asked how he became successful, the rich man said "my dad always called me a son of a bitch, and I wanted to prove him wrong." The homeless man was asked how he became homeless, and he said "because my dad always called me a son of a bitch".
I want to be the guy who almost everybody has put down, bullied, abused, lied to and ganged up on who proved them all wrong.
I believe I can because I have the talent and determination to succeed. I see others with less do more and know that I deserve it. I am a good person with great talent.
-Adam Ruplinger
e-Success Coach
WebProCoach.com
Orem, Utah
Because my attitude is so important, I take steps throughout the day to top it off -- keep it burning with passion and purpose.
No question, I am old and successful... not old and cynical!
Please read my response to Ester. I feel exactly as you do!!! I'm not sure if it helps to know there is someone else out there experiencing the same hopelessness and I appreciate your honesty. I'm not sure how to encourage you since I am in the same desert, but I know that if we keep walking - eventually we will find water. Even if we have to walk through several states. Just know there is someone else out there in your shoes on your side. Best wishes, Tammie
Since reading (46 years ago) and following the principle laid down in Think & Grow Rich, I have had the tendency to put my Plans into Action Quickly and be slow to chnage my decision.
But those plans were designed with the expectation of success.
My failures were the outcome of poor plnning and a weak decision process.
Chuck Bartok
2004 was a heart-breaking year for me. My only child, my beloved daughter, graduated from college and moved from Atlanta to New Jersey to attend graduate school in New York. I wanted to accompany her, to see her new apartment, help her move and settle in; but, her answer was "No Mommy. I want to do this on my own."
To this day, I still shed tears remembering this moment. I didn't want to smother her with my motherly desire to go along. I just wanted to watch her fly into the horizon of adulthood. I just wanted to help. That is what I'd always been so good at as a mom; yet here she was all grown up and, seemingly, no longer needing me. I took this very hard.
I'd been an active involved parent. I'd raised her without the help of her Dad. We'd always been so close -- like best friends. One day she grew up to develop friends and a life of her own. So, it was time for me to grow into my own life too.
But how would I do that? I didn't have a clue.
I do not know the source of your despair, but I can tell you that even though this memory still dips into a well of tears, those tears appeared just now, only momentarily, as I share this memory with you.
I reached out for help and found an excellent counselor who supported me through my Empty Nest challenge. After a couple of weeks, when it seemed all I did was eat and sleep, I consulted a doctor too. Finally, and most importantly, one painful evening, I had a one-on-one with God.
I poured out all my emotions -- my anger and disappointment not only about difficulties with adjusting to my new role of Mother-of-Adult-Daughter; but due to a string of tragedies that seemed to roll in one after the other like aftershocks of a major quake.
In 2004, I also found myself separated from my husband after only seven months into our new marriage. And, if this weren't enough, within the same three-month period, I was released from my job, and, someone stole my car.
I remember waking up and wondering what had happened to my life? It was during this period of "dark nights of the soul" that God seemed to speak directly to me. It was a voice in my head as clear as if someone was in my room speaking directly to me.
God said "Didn't you once say you thought you had a calling?" And I answered, "Yes. I'd always felt called and didn't know exactly how to express the calling." Then God said, "Maybe now is the time to find out -- that is, if you were serious about feeling called." "Yes, I was serious which was why I spent so much of my free time volunteering." God then continued, "Wasn't Jesus, after he'd been baptized by John the Baptist, driven by the Holy Spirit into the wilderness to spend 40 days and 40 nights alone to endure hardship and temptation." I answered, "Yes Lord, he was." Then God answered, "Then why do you not expect to endure your own wilderness experience? Don't all those called by The Spirit to serve endure some periods of suffering?" I answered, "Yes, Lord." Then God said, "Then go and seek your calling." And I did just that.
I joined a church and began volunteering making friends by co-chairing their Coffee Hour Ministry. You have spoken of your volunteer activities where you appear happy outwardly yet you are sad inside. I can only offer to you my experience and say that since 2004, through reaching out for support, learning to forgive, seeking my calling and doing inner work, (some of it difficult and painful), I began to discover my new self who looks to a bright future. It is that new self that lead me to TQ. TQ offers a system that helps us build up our weaknesses while continuing to allow us to develop our strengths.
I did not mean for this to turn into a novel. My desire is only to fulfill my calling by sharing, caring, praying with others, offering words of encouragement and hope.
May your daily gratitude practice guide you to new-found joy.
Peace and blessings to you,
Esther
P.S. As a newly-graduated massage therapy student, I also highly recommend the benefits of massage. Treat yourself to an hour-long full body massage and you'll be surprised how much better you'll feel!
I cried when I read your post. Congratulations on your new "career"! I also feel I have a calling to be helpful to others and can relate to your story. I am hoping you can help me see a brighter future. My question is how did you support you and your daughter during this difficult time? The reason I ask is because I am very grateful for the things God has given me and my family. At this time I have been unemployed for almost a year. I work a few hours doing housecleaning and am having difficulty making ends meet. I like to help others so I do anything extra I am able to do. I am not sure if I am being selfish, but one of the persons I help is dying and I have been helping out as much as I can. I dread going and I am only helping out of a feeling of obligation. I cannot take money from someone in this situation, but I am doing work and my creditors deserve to be paid too. I know my help is appreciated a little, but I also know they will hate me if I don't keep helping as much and how will they manage when they are so ill? I am only supposed to help four hours a week but it has become eight to ten. There is no-one else and this consumes most of my thoughts. I should be concentrating on studying, but as you can see I am not doing that now. I have completed classes to become a Certified Nurses Assistant but dealing with this situation has made me uninterested in this field. There are very few jobs in Michigan so this seems to be my only "hope". I am having trouble with my skills and I need to take the state test but will not do so until I am confident enough to pass. There is a verse something about a man who will not work shall not eat. I am eager to work but there are few jobs and so many people with so much more to offer. Speaking of massage. My "client" believes that a massage would help. If I could afford one it would be perfect. The insurance will not cover it. It's all about money. I hope this shows you that your line of work is necessary. I'm praying for a job where I can earn enough but also contribute enough.
This is great advice for anyone: Don't stay stuck!
Reading your story, it is clear that at every point you picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and took positive action.
Clearly, you adopted the TQ mindset of
Expecting More...
Executing Better!
Find a way to do this a little more often, and you move up towards success. Permit the negatives to hold you down, wear you out and crush your hope... you die a little more each day.
As for your advice to get a Massage -- it's great! Here in Denver we have a school that, on weekends, charges only $25 for a full hour. It is a treat to yourself -- a reward -- that not only makes you tingly all over... but instantly make you feel more POSITIVE!
Thanks for sharing.
I'd forgotten to mention the fact that many massage schools do, indeed, have clinic hours available at great rates!
My school, The New School for Massage Bodywork and Healing, in Chicago, IL, offers a one-hour student massage for under $35.00. They also have professionals available at varying rates depending on their speciality.
Everybody go get a massage! :-)
Esther
My mission for this Role is to make the world smarter about success... to help people become vastly more successful... a whole lot easier... by increasing their TQ's by 20-30 points.
The goal is 20 million people working smarter, living smarter and competing smarter within the next 5 years.
High Expectations? You bet!
What will it take to achieve this vision?
Brilliant Execution. No doubt!
My most Empowering Role has been the start up of the Talk Show discussing Think & Grow Rich. It was a kernel that started to grow when I publically declared I would start it.
The growth and reception is phenomenal and the "listening " and "live" audience wants it to Continue.
I will Continue to Expand the Venue of LIVE discussion groups on Self improvement centered.
We will grow to the 5,000+ per episode listener base.
And I will start Private Sessions.
Chuck Bartok
wwww.focussociety.com
I have my goals in place, my plans in place. the movement from my plans to my daily tasks is slowly but surely happening and I can see myself doing something towards my larger goals each day. This is a good start to the year. Soon it will be great.
Yes I will exceed my expectations this year...
- To your success
tap into my potential. If I stick with my
action plan all things are possible.
tap into my potential. If I stick with my
action plan all things are possible.
So I believe that I should succeed in fulfilling all my dreams
I deserve better than I have been willing to give myself. It is time to start believing that I can succeed given that I accomplish what is needed one day at a time. Getting back to "one day at a time" and breaking my to do list into small tasks is the only way to take control of my life. I will trade the only life I have for excellence in all that I attempt to do!
and TQ backing up sysem ;-)
y.e.s
I become concerned and fixed on one customer/client or two and then next thing you know I am thinking they are all going to fall out! One thing at a time. Once day at a time.
I need to listen to the CD as well.
Regards
Chauhan
to cut this chain and keep high expectations while forgiving oneself temporary low performance certainly is a boost back to high performance
y.e.s.
my thinking and I realized I have been limiting myself and it is TIME to tack the shackles and blinders off. The world is my oyster!
Chauhan
I don't dream about the future anymore, or what I want for me. I have let my fear of being a failure stop me from thinking long term. I feel that, in many ways, I have no control over what happens anyway. I know that thinking is wrong. I just don't know how I can have power over things like where we will live (I am not the wage earner), or the fact that my ex won't pay his part of care for the kids (we've taken him to court and exhausted our resources), or my husband's attitude toward the children and vice versa.
y.e.s
Starting the CSR company - Visualize the office - the positive energies - the good healthy vibes....
Making 52 presentations before Dec 2008 - Visualize the confident presentations, the sucessful pitches....
Cracking at least 5 projects: visualize successful and confident execution of the projects...
Vision: In the news as the captain of one of the leading CSR companies!
1. Start the CSR co: Visualize the ofice the positive vibes and healthy energies...
2. Make the 52 presentations to various cos: Visualise confident pitches, cracking at least 5 of them...
3. Successful execution of projects: Visualise excellent and confident execution of projects visualize the cheques coming in... the satisfied clients etc
Vision: In the news as the leader of a pioneering co in this area...
Chauhan
I allowed my pain to control my life .
Programs are set and con time to be explored for the betterment of my recovery.
at present things are better than last year and will continue
taking the right action at the right time is critical in making decisions that I expect a promising out come by summer.
I will have achieve my goal by fully commiting and reviewing my goals twice a day to help me keep motivated .
as I see the changes occuring before me it keeps me pumped.
because I have set up a plan of action which I have executed at the right time under the right condition for the right reason.
But now I have the goals, the misions and plans in place. I should conquer all the above problems and be 'the successful person'.
y.e.s.
Think TQ is an awesome tool of great benefit to propel my business to the next level.
Life is not a spectator sport,with GOD as your coach you just can't lose.
in the past. One value that I do have is
TRANQUILITY and there is the rub. To pursue a new dream will disrupt the perfect tranquil setting I have made for myself. Any thoughts anyone?
Is it possible for a person to change? It's a fixation of mine...
My favorite novel, In the heat of the Night, my favorite movie, A Christmas Carol bothe deal with a person's ability to change.
Why not me? Where is my Virgil Tibbs, or my Jacob Marley.
Doesn't anyone care enough to intervene for me? I reach out, I push,
I try, but I need help! if you are out there, please find me -- then I promise I will
Given all the above, I am certain to exceed my admittedly high expectations!! Bring it on!!!!
Does this mean I'm aiming too low, and without enough faith in myself? What would happen if I AIMED to exceed my expectations?
What if I constantly reaffirmed that I am wholly capable of exceeding my expectations, so that I am constantly motivated to do the best I can do in everything, and thereby exceed everyone's expectations (even if they're already really high expectations) (and yes, including my own)?
I already am on a weekly and sometimes daily basis.
If you believe you will or if you believe you wont....you are right.
Why not believe in success?
to help grow your wealth ideas, and then decide to come
next month to Tx. or join as an affiliate by teleconferences
http://estore.websitepros.com/2015935/StoreFront.bok?
affiliate_no=60 worth typing in, worth watching
One has to start with integrity.
1. Am I congruent in my thoughts words and deeds?
Am I humble? Humble leaders are team players.
Am I courageous to do the things I believe in.
How do I increase my Integrity?
1. Make and keep Commitments to yourself.
2. Stand for something. "To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest." Gandhi
3. Be open - is vital to integrity. To be open inspires credibility and trust; to be closed fosters suspicion and mistrust.
a. Do I believe that the way I see the world is totally accurate and complete-or I am honestly willing to listen and consider new viewpoints and ideas?
b. Do I seriously consider differing point of views (from boss, team member, spouse or child) and am I willing to be influenced by them?
c. Do I believe there may be principles that I have not yet discovered? Am I determined to live in harmony with them, even if it means developing new thinking patterns and habits?
d. Do I value-and am I involved in-continual learning?
To the degree to which you remain open to new ideas, possibilities and growth, you create a trust dividend; to the degree you do not, your create a trust tax that impacts both your current and future performance.
These three accelerators - make and keep commitments to yourself, stand for something, and be open - will help you increase your integrity. They will also help increase the speed and decrease the cost with which you do the important things in your life - every time!
The greater your integrity, the more honest, congruent, humble, and courageous you are - th more credibility you will have and the more trust you will inspire. The more you will be able to transform trust taxes into trust dividends in every dimension of your life.
Keep moving, keep believing..no matter what.
In my heart I know that if I follow my dreams, I will be able to succeed. I honestly believe I am enamoured by these dreams because they are *right* for me. If I follow my passions, I have the best chance of being successful. What is not to believe?
The act of doing something opposite of what Im feeling, stimulates encouragement and enthusiasm, with an expectation for something better, something positive to occur.
I am working to change the attitude which in turn will have a positive impact on my expectations....raising them in a positive direction.
Failure to believe that I will eventually succeed creates discouragement and low self esteem. It prevents us from trying to succeed and causes us to want to quit.
Now I am re-entering the income making part of my life and need to discover which way to proceed as I really want to be passionate about what I do, not only for me but as an example to my kids.
create a well define plan for the next 30 days
to also empower people by my personality bc it is very lovely. smile
My best guess now is that my power to execute is weakened by being unsure WHY I'm doing what I'm doing -- specifically, why I'm still in school, plugging away towards something I don't even want. To counter this, I have been working on defining my dream job, and assuring myself that I can be a great entrepreneur as long as I learn to tackle this thesis and get myself through the degree to which I've invested so much time. It's helping, slowly but surely.
Getting buy often over weighs the concept of prosperity.
Purchase comfortable, spacious, secure Home for family within 6 months
Strengthen Body, mind, and spirit daily
is it just monatary??
Physical??
you work hard all your life, with the dream of being able to quit and give someone else a better chance...
Beware of your dreams, take your time and enjoy they way to your success... remember to take care of yourself first.... GOD Bless
I will be successful because I will do what it takes to be successful.
I have the ability to succeed in my endeavors as God has granted me the talent to excel. It is up to me to polish my current skills, learn new skills and apply them to the task at hand with passion until success is accomplished!
Got something to say?
We want your thoughts, but you must be a member of ThinkTQ.com to comment on these articles. Please register or sign-in.